Ordinary people don't need to make friends. The social relationships of ordinary people are as worthless as shit, and it's really just a waste of time. If you haven't understood this truth by the age of 40, it only shows that you're still immature and very likely to get stuck in a dead end. Before 30, you might run far just because of a call from your shady friends, or go out drinking and bragging together. But once you pass 30, if you still frequently shuttle between various drinking and eating friends' gatherings, it's either childish or idiotic. People don't only need to save and spend wisely when it comes to saving money; they need to do the same with their energy. Concentrating your limited energy on a few key points is the only way to achieve the results you want. As for social relationships, either the other party can provide emotional value or offer benefits in return. Other than that, other people are of no real significance.

In fact, the network of ordinary people doesn't really have much value. First, if you are not capable, then the people around you won't be either. The level you're at, the friends you have around you are at the same level. Problems you can't solve will likely only become more troublesome if you involve them, and it will be difficult for both sides to provide emotional value to each other. Besides secretly competing and comparing, and mutual jealousy, nothing else is useful. Being afraid that friends are suffering or that they drive a Land Rover really falls into this category. So, many relationships can quietly fade away and end.

However, many people fail to see this reality clearly. The worse they are doing, the more they will treat having multiple friends and multiple paths as their life motto, especially being enthusiastic about socializing. Actually, after 40, the friends who can still stay by your side are not maintained through emotional ties or mutual change, but through screening and selection. If between 30 and 40 you can't learn to detach yourself from shitty relationships and learn to save your energy and focus on self-improvement, then after 40, although you might have filtered out some valuable friends, you will definitely be the one being filtered out by others.

Many people will definitely scoff at these words, even think they are too ruthless. But that's okay; those who are doing well will know that what I say is true. Those who are not doing well might be unwilling to be exposed and unable to struggle out of the shit, so they find all kinds of lofty excuses to prove that they are not so opportunistic. But none of this matters. Ultimately, reality will make you understand that in the adult world, making friends is all about value.