To become stronger, is it necessary to choose solitude? In many cases, the answer is: yes. You will find that many people who prefer to mingle in crowds for a long time tend to become mobs. When alone, a person is often more rational and clearer-headed; but once in a group, they tend to follow blindly and become emotional. When people immerse themselves in groups, their ability for independent thinking often diminishes, they abandon their own judgment, and actively conform to the group just to gain a sense of security and acceptance. Therefore, solitude makes it easier to develop an independent personality and independent thinking. Not being disturbed by others, not following the crowd. But independent thinking also has a cost: the more independent your views, the fewer friends you may have, and the more enemies you might attract. Gradually, you will realize that not many people truly understand you.

Take a closer look at reality: many people who are not doing well tend to gather in groups of three or five, drinking and bragging; while truly outstanding individuals often enjoy solitude more and can better endure loneliness. Those who can be alone and dare to be lonely are usually not simple. If you want to improve your cognition, learn to go your own way; if you want to stay clear-headed, reduce meaningless social interactions; if you truly want to grow and awaken, solitude is almost a necessary path. Because when you are alone, you are talking to yourself, engaging in genuine thinking. What you hear and feel is closer to the truth.

And once you stay in low-quality groups for a long time, you will find that: everyone’s information is closed off, cognition is repetitive, and viewpoints are emotional. If you express a different opinion, relationships may break immediately. Therefore, from a growth perspective, staying away from low-quality crowds is a form of self-protection. We often say “a crane standing out among chickens,” but the true meaning is not that the crane stands among chickens, but that the crane leaves the flock of chickens to go among its own kind. Leaving the flock of chickens, you are a crane; finding your crane group, you can truly grow.