I have a friend who complains all day long that his wife isn't reasonable, has a bad temper, and is emotionally unstable—like a powder keg that explodes at any moment. He also says another friend's wife is very gentle, understands social etiquette, gives her husband face in public, takes great care of things at home, dresses elegantly, and carries herself with grace.

I told him to stop right there. Look, that friend makes 80 per year while you make 6. The other guy's wife gets 30k a month for household expenses—what about you? Nothing.

That wife spends her days tending flowers at home, doing Pilates, eating pastries, and driving a little BMW. Meanwhile, your wife rushes off to work every morning, gets criticized by her boss all day, handles a pile of tedious tasks, then rides her little scooter home with cracked hands from the cold. The second she gets home, you tell her you're going out for drinks with friends and asks her to watch the kids. How could she not explode?

The less a man earns and the lazier he is, the more irritable and frustrated his wife will be. Why would she save her good mood for the New Year?

Women only have time to care for the home, time to dress themselves up, be gentle and beautiful, and maintain emotional stability when they don't have to worry about money.

I saw a TV show about a male actor who gives his family over 100k a month in living expenses. When he's sleeping in the morning, the whole family is extra careful not to make any noise to avoid disturbing his rest. They prepare a huge breakfast, but the whole family doesn't touch anything and waits for him to wake up to eat together. The way his wife speaks to him—it's like heavenly music, so tender and affectionate.

So I told him: Stop complaining. Focus on improving yourself. When you reach the point where you can give 30k a month for household expenses, your wife's emotions will become stable, she'll become gentle, and yes, she'll become beautiful too.